Where did all dad’s blogs go, or were they really there?

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You hear a lot about mom blogs.

As in, there is a plot of them. Which suggests that they are both effective and useful. “Blogger moms are a unique set of bloggers,” as Elna of the site Twins Mommy notes in her roundup of her 42 (!) favorite mom-focused sites. “We need to be effective multi-taskers, have strong time management skills, and most importantly, balance motherhood with business.”

If these blogs (as well as Facebook groups and social media channels) can sometimes offer less than excellent advice – see this subreddit for some cringe-worthy offerings – at least they try.

And the dads? Do “dad blogs” exist?

The short answer is yes (and they’re usually called “dad blogs”, thank goodness) although apparently not in the mom blog numbers – and certainly not with an engaged readership, at least by men. As early as 2010, the Backpacking Dad site suggested that “men will read dad’s blogs when dad’s bloggers start writing as if their audience is male.”

“Men online don’t care about parenting from a guy’s perspective,” writes Shawn Bruns, author of Backpacking Dad. “Dads Care About Parenthood: In the Absence of Dad Blogs we were already reading mom’s blogs. Non-dads don’t care about the topic or your point of view (or at least not the numbers to rock your audience). So who are you attracting with your writing from a male perspective? Women who want to see what a man’s point of view is.

There also seems to be quite a bit of criticism within the dad community, so you’ll find articles like “Why Reading Dad Blogs Is A Waste Of Time” and “Are Blogging Dads dummies?” which are written by dad bloggers.

A 2018 study published in wise logs makes a positive case for dad bloggers, but also suggests exactly how audiences for these types of sites might be limited. “Blogging dads are challenging traditional notions of masculinity, constructing ‘caring masculinities’ and embracing a pro-feminist perspective,” writes Casey Scheibling, from the Department of Sociology at McMaster University in Canada. “Despite some tensions and contradictions within the community, I argue that blogging dads are reconstructing fatherhood and masculinities in ways that promote caring and equality in general.”

Which, unfortunately, might not sit well with many men, even though the ideas surrounding fatherhood and rethinking masculinity are wonderful goals. You can feel the frustration some of these male bloggers have with their indifferent audience. “Stop trying to change the fucking subject. Parenting needs to be talked about. You need to think about what it means to be a good dad. You need to consider what type of stroller is best and when to introduce solid foods and s whether or not to hold back the kindergartner. Prefer to talk about football; well, that’s just too bad,” Clay Nichols wrote on DadLabs (in the aforementioned “Do DadBloggers Suck?” article). .

Potential readers of dad’s blog are missing. As The Conversation notes, dad blogs can have a social impact, from advocating for paternity leave, changing stations in the men’s bathroom and even simply raising awareness of issues such as gender stereotypes, better sex education and the protection of LGBTQ individuals and families.

There are also organizations that recognize the potential power (even the financial power) of dads – witness Dad 2.0, where annual summit attendees can network with “influential dads, media and marketers” and have an open conversation. on the “commercial power of dads”. online.” That said, the summit appears to have ended in 2020, and the site’s social media accounts have not been updated since March of this year…suggesting (if not pandemic-related ) that there is a limit to the influential blogger dad.

One solution might be to search for dad content or influencers in ways that aren’t necessarily ‘blogs’ – I’m not a parent, but I’ve come across (and read) dad/parent tips on Twitter, where someone like david morris (“Working daily to be an honorable husband, committed father, world-class COO, and trustworthy man”) can mix parenting advice into quick tweets (usually featured in a list/thread speed-reader) while discussing issues outside of parenting – I found his account by reading something about hidden Microsoft Excel tricks. There are also newsletters/sites such as Fatherly, which is as much about parenting as it is about parenting (and doesn’t assume your child is a newborn or 1-2 years old). And newer sites like Fathercraft are more about product reviews mixed in with a parenting MasterClass — they promise “content backed by research and science.” (Granted, that doesn’t exactly exude parental love, but rational talk is always welcome). And if you’re on Reddit, well, there’s “Daddit.”

Ultimately, there are plenty of dad blogs out there and plenty of lists of the best. No matter your parenting style, chances are you’ll find one that, as some early dad writers have suggested, doesn’t “grit” or waste your time.

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